When We Disagree

Try to Love the Questions

Michael Lee Season 3 Episode 2

Lara Schwartz, author of Try to Love the Questions, argues that our disagreements get stuck when we reduce them to binary yes/no battles. Instead, she calls for “lovable questions”—open-ended inquiries that push us beyond entrenched positions and into shared exploration. From campus debates over AI to national fights about free speech, Schwartz shows how the real challenge is deciding which questions remain open and which society has already answered. She makes the case that disagreement is a skill we can all practice—and that doing so helps us find common ground without forcing false compromises.

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